HOW TO APPROACH A LADY, HOW TO RESPOND TO GUY.
BY SAINT LOUIS.
Life happens. Probably one of the most hackneyed phrases you’ve ever heard. There’s a big problem when you’re unable to effectively Communicate how you feel towards someone. especially if its the opposite sex. Some times you discover you end up saying the opposite of what you intended. every relationship is built on approach, mannerism and ethics. and in all of this the process in which thought’s, feelings and emotions are conveyed is very important.
how to approach a lady, how to talk to a man is a love digest or a how to article on relationships. see it this way. you’re summed up In less than a minute from the things you say. what if those weren’t really your true intentions. what if you had an opportunity of making a great impression and not have a need for another. often times you hear people complain about how a certain guy or lady lacks much manners or is peevish. This creates a feud or even leaves a bad impression on the other person. In most cases, it affects their self esteem, especially guys who may read several other meanings into why they were rejected.
Its all about ethics and etiquette for approaching the opposite sex. after reading, you will learn how to speak seamlessly and communicate to lady as a guy, and you’d also understand how to elicit a response. there is a how to in every situation. and even if you’re disinterested in initiating a conversation. you will also master the art of bringing out the best in a Lady. irrespective of her age, class or background. the good thing every guy should know is that every lady wants to be approached. every lady wants to feel special. they often want to be the center of attention. always. with emphasis on always. If this were true, why would a lady then want to turn you down if after all these were your intentions. that’s why You’re reading this.
I’ve met ladies, older, bigger, younger and may be fairer, one thing comes to mind whenever I see one. I react to them based on the clime or environment and also the circumstances at play. you can call it being spontaneous, but its way behind that. it takes a science to read through a woman’s mind and to know what and how she’s likely to respond to my manner of communication with her. Is it a joke or perhaps a more formal approach. how about telling stories to douse the pressure and create a leverage. studying every feature in a person to foresee a possible response takes a great measure of skill. Its inbred for some, whilst others would discover that they can consciously work to master it.
In some African societies, there is a seeming lack of understanding between both sexes when communication is concerned. to be more specific, “the when and the how” what to say and how to say it. Managing this problem comes with an even more complicated form as the both sexes are quick to point out flaws but are unable to admit theirs. This leads to a recurrent pattern.
This is all about communication. On how to get the best of some one important to you. its an outlook to why you use certain methods when speaking to people and why you should even speak to them in the first instance. it makes you understand that the world is ruled by communication, most importantly, effective communication. This is the new currency of relationships and every system is interwoven and exists based on mutual and beneficial relationships.
As a Nigerian Writer, I’m inclined to dwell more on my immediate society or perhaps mirror my message through the lens of my environment. In this society, ego plays a predominant role in how the both sexes interact. sadly, this impedes the excitement. it drains the fun and creates a hostile atmosphere too difficult to thaw. this becomes an increasing feature often caused by the excessive need to appear a certain way before the other or as they say, not “let your guard down”. we tend to see more of complexities, mendacity, low self esteem and a pervasive friction. not that this is originally intended, but due to the insidious penchant for cheekiness, ornate display or pretentiousness, the societal narrative around us concerning how a man should approach a lady and how a lady should respond to a guy has become more vague and complicated. Hence a tussle for power or control between two partners. you see a schism the guy then would often see it as a herculean task to study the woman and vice versa. you will often hear phrases like “its really crazy that women are like this” or “its typical of women to do that. a bunch of eerie creatures God Knows where they came from” these phrases depict hate, indifference and dislike. It further portrays a picture of a man who does not consent with either the ideals of women or a greater measure of their composition. but here’s the sad news. you know in your deepest parts that you crave and desire the company of the other sex even when you “seemingly” do not like her! What an Irony!
Same goes for the women, for this sex, they might as well survive without men. “Who needs men!” Men are this, men are that. But every woman loves to be walked up to by a gentleman in a dapper suit either offering to take her number or offering her a ride. its always the best moments of their lives. The rush of pleasant energy combined with the feeling of acceptance and worth. but guess what, these same set of creatures who make you feel like you’re in seventh heaven, who give you a sense of warmth, worth and belonging are often the topic of discourse by by you. do you see a pattern?
All the love, the positive emotions laden in relationships, composure, demeanor, speech, and the elements of your message for both sexes is essential to communication. This cannot be over estimated in the 21st century and that is why this article is a must read if you want to have a seamless and rancour free communication with the opposite sex.
Your lack of ability to understand that leaving a great impression on the first time could eventually come with its its grave consequences. The best of deals, franchises, contracts, relationships, and friendships begin with a few moments of graceful conversation. I recall my encounter with a female broadcaster of Mainstream Media outfit. It was a state function which had attracted a collection of dignitaries and of course, the Press. such functions come with a beehive of activities. I was In the convoy of the presidential fleet to and fro the activities for the day’s program. One of such was the visit to the council of elders. also present was the president elect and collection of Nigeria’s political cream. minutes into the program, I tilted to the left and discovered a presenter I’d known and watched for years sitting next to me. excitedly, i decided to let her know how I had watched her for several years and how I thought she was a great presenter, to my blistering dismay, she exuded an inconceivable attitude of conceit and unpleasant arrogance. at first, i thought i could give her a chance presuming that came out the wrong way, or she was perhaps overwhelmed by the demands of her present assignment, and I tried introducing myself to her again, same response. and so I withdrew. of course i still watch her programs on T.V, but as you can rightly presume, that left an ominous impression on my mind. I pondered for a while, what was the essence of Public Relations Training she had reeceived.had she forgotten that as a media professional, you were guided by simple ethics of modest conducts and felicity when communicating with people. herein is the problem. Its lacking everywhere, even amongst so called media and communications experts. so grab a cup of coffee, sit and relax as we journey through the next edition of this peace.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR.
_Saint Louis is a Nigerian journalist and writer. he has authored over 300 articles on a vast array of topics ranging across politics, Health, education and lifestyle. He is also an author of three books._
